I cant Believe it....

My best friend's brother died today. I feel so bad for her....

He had asthma (sp?). Yesterday he had a really bad attack and wrecked his car. The doctors say the asthma must have triggered a heart attack. Last night, he was in ICU. This morning there was a less than 5% chance he would live. I didnt know until about 2 hours ago.

Im still in shock. Shes been my best friend since 2nd grade. I want to call her, but I dont know what to say. I met her brother last year and he was the coolest, nicest guy. He was so close to Elise, my friend. He would come home on weekends and theyd go to the weekends. And when someone said, "Hey youre Josh's sister" she never denied it. He was only 25.

RIP Josh Keistman

OMG! I am so sorry to hear this. I would definately call her or better
yet if you can, go see her. Sometimes it's not what you say, it's just
that you cared enough to say it. HUGS!

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I want to call her, but I dont know what to say

You need to talk to her, even if THAT'S all you say... you've never been thru this before, so obviously no one can expect you to be a pro...if you aren't there for her now, you will regret it, I promise...just call her or go over if you can and give her a big hug and have a good cry...just be there

So sorry to hear about your friend's loss.

I am one of those people who has trouble dealing wit h death and serious illness. We were sheltered from all of that growing up, not allowed to go to funerals etc., and people's deaths and illnesses weren't discussed. I didn't go to any of my grandparents' funerals. As a consequence, it's still hard for me to comfort people, I don't know what to say. I would strongly suggest since you are young that you contact your friend immediately just to be there for her whatever you say and try to go the funeral as well. It will be good for you as well as your friend.

Bless her heart! Oh, my goodness. Im Sorry sure doesn't seem enough, get her to talk about him, let her tell you funny stories. Let her be proud of the fact he was her big brother, Just because he in gone he is not forgotten. Memories is what she has, let her hang on to them dearly. Encourage her to. And of corse HUGS just like everyone said. Sure is alot of power in a hug. Seems as though you both have memories of him, Share them, laugh until you cry. And laugh some more. Im sorry for your loss too. Its hard to lose a friend.

Kate and Paint wrote:

My best friend's brother died today. I feel so bad for her....

He had asthma (sp?). Yesterday he had a really bad attack and wrecked his car. The doctors say the asthma must have triggered a heart attack. Last night, he was in ICU. This morning there was a less than 5% chance he would live. I didnt know until about 2 hours ago.

Im still in shock. Shes been my best friend since 2nd grade. I want to call her, but I dont know what to say. I met her brother last year and he was the coolest, nicest guy. He was so close to Elise, my friend. He would come home on weekends and theyd go to the weekends. And when someone said, "Hey youre Josh's sister" she never denied it. He was only 25.

RIP Josh Keistman

Definitely call.... just let her know you're thinking about her - she's going to need friends and a shoulder to cry on. One of my best friends died of a sudden asthma attack in January, she'd have been 24 last Wednesday and left behind a 5 yr old daughter. Not a day goes by that I don't think about her and I'm very grateful to be constantly surrounded by others who also mourn her loss. You're friend needs you now more than ever. My prayers will be with her family.

call her you don' t have to say much just let her talk if she needs to or cry if she needs to

I'm so sorry this happend but you are the friend she needs right now and she'll be thankful for you

Thanks you guys for all your help. She wasnt in too much a mood to talk yesterday, so I kind of gave her a little space at first, so instead, we had a nice long text message conversation. She knows Im here for her. Today at school, she was very sullen. I hugged her and walked by her most of the day. I even got her to laugh a couple of times. Shes knows Ill be there for Josh's funeral. Not just me, so she knows everyone is there for her support. I just cant understand why this had to happen to Josh. I know how close the two were. I just dont know why it would happen to such a nice person.

I firmly feel the "good die young" ...I think those people that are so sweet and kind, and giving, are rewarded and go to heaven before the rest of us earn our trip... some others may disagree, but that's what I hope for...it's the only thing that makes any sense to me

I think one of the most important things is to be there for your friend. Having that keeps the mind a little off what just happened.. I know that there is a lot going on when this happens and a lot to do.. Offers of help in anyway lets the person know you are there for them. It is OK to cry with them too..

Then when all is done and people go away that is the toughest time.. Keep the contact up and give her someone to talk to when she needs to talk.. That is worth it's weight in gold.. Just knowing someone cares.